Tips & Advice For First Time Chastity Subs - Best Devices, Hygiene & Key Holding Services

March 11, 2019

There are lots of reasons a man might decide to enter into chastity, many do it as full relinquishment of control and the ultimate sacrifice to their Mistress, to feel that they are still serving their Mistress at a distance, to torture oneself for lack of a Mistress, to challenge oneself or learn some self control, and even as a cure for masturbation addiction!

Whatever your reasons there are a few things to take into consideration before deciding to go into short term or long term chastity, and while there are a few forums out there most of the info is fragmented and it's easy to miss out on vital bits.


I have held many subs in chastity, both male and female, over the last 16 years and being fully involved in the journey with them I have picked up a few useful bits of information about being in chastity along the way, so I have put together some essential info on getting into it and everything you need to consider from health & hygiene, finding the best fitting device, maintenance, and engaging in a key holding service with me.


So before deciding to commit to chastity there are a few key points to take into consideration.


*In terms of health, studies have shown that regular ejaculation can decrease the risk of developing prostate cancer, so it is important to have a bit of knowledge about your family medical history, if prostate cancer has a history in your family then chastity without release for no more than a couple of weeks at a time would probably be sensible, and not for extended periods either. The health risks need to be remembered when deciding about the amount of time/frequency of release you want to achieve in chastity.


*Whilst it is easy to urinate and wash when wearing a chastity device, it is likely that you will experience some rubbing and chafing of the device on your testicles or penis, this discomfort can be relieved with the regular application of water based lube, morning afternoon and night, so you should factor this possibility into your daily schedule and make preparations for carrying lube on you at all times. 


*Finding the right chastity device for you could be a costly initial investment, no cocks are the same and there is no one size fits all, so while many men in chastity may recommend a particular product for fit and comfort it may not always be suitable for you. As chastity devices are quite "intimate" items not all companies will accept returns, so you may end up wasting a bit of money on a couple of useless devices before you find the right fit. 


*Whilst it may seem more psychologically exciting to wear a heavy steel device and feel totally under control, there are some practical implications to consider. A heavy bulky device is going to make itself known, to you and potentially to the outside world. Imagine your life wearing this device before you go for it , you wear really tight pants at the office, you clunk it on the corner of your desk, you man spread your legs while on public transport, you wear very baggy shorts a lot, consider the areas where such a large heavy device might get you into trouble, especially if your keys are going to be held by a third party! You've also got to try and get some sleep with that thing hanging there! You may eventually decide to consider investing in different devices for different occasions. 


*Make provisions for emergencies! If you're in long distance chastity to someone and the keys to your device are 100 miles away, what happens if you start to feel unwell and need to call an ambulance? Are you trying to hide this device from someone in the family? Would you be mortified if the paramedics saw it? If you are not in close regular contact with your key holder you need to make sure you have a way out of your device in an emergency, even if that means stashing bolt cutters in the house somewhere. You shouldn't use them unless you absolutely have to obviously! Don't break the trust in your chastity contract (assuming that's you're arrangement) by pulling a cheeky one! 


*If even with a fairly small device you are concerned that it is still showing, you might have to consider "tucking" your junk between your legs slightly. You could do this with a piece of duct tape, attached to the underside of the device passing between your legs towards the back and stuck down to a bum cheek, not the most comfortable for long term daily wear, especially if you've got a hairy ass! Otherwise you are going to need some tight fitting underwear to hold the device close to your body. A lot of chastity subs enjoy the added element of being further emasculated by being made to wear ladies underwear, a nice tight thong will definitely hold your junk in place! If ladies underwear is not doing it for you or too much of a risk, then consider buying a mans thong or some speedo type pants instead.


How to choose the best device.


 You're going to need to get really up close and personal with your junk for this one, you're going to have to push yourself to make 'observations' about size and shape without being critical or fantastical about it! If you judge yourself too harshly or are too generous with your observations, then you're going to end up forking out money for devices you can't use, so for once in your life you will need to be objective about your genitals! 


Are you a shower or a grower? Measure your penis length and circumference, you will still get erections while you wear the device, wake up with morning glory etc. you will just be restricted, squished and uncomfortable, so make a note of the difference in size between hard and flaccid and look for a shaft piece that allows for that. Inspect your testicles, is your scrotum easy to hold in the palm of your hand or are the testicles tucked up too high? Perhaps they hang really low and you have a very stretched scrotum. Perhaps you have huge swollen or chunky balls that you need two hands to wrap around the whole lot properly, any one or all of these size and shape factors could affect if a device will be comfortable or not, so make sure you know what you are working with. If you have large chunky balls that make a bulge in your pants already then it's not a good idea to get the largest chunkiest cage to sit on top of them, you're just asking for trouble.


After that you need to understand how most devices fit together so you can better understand the space the device provides once assembled. 

Although there is a large variety of device designs out there the most common structure found is this:

 This device is known as a "ball trapper" and consists of 3 main elements, the shaft cover at the front, the ring at the back which surrounds your full genitals, penis and testicles, and the spacing pins which are inserted from the back of the ring passing across the top of the penis and then extending through the shaft cover at the front, where a hole in the center spacing pin allows for a padlock which prevents the further 2 side pins from sliding out of the shaft piece. 

These spacing pins come in different lengths to allow a larger or smaller gap at the bottom between the ring and shaft for the testicles to comfortably hang out between, hence the name "ball trapper!"


These devices come in 3 different materials, solid stainless steel and coloured or transparent plastic and silicone.  From my experience I would say that each material has it's benefits but within a given set of circumstances. Steel devices although often beautiful and intricate, do not offer a lot of practicality for long term all day wear, those with less than average stature can get away with wearing these long term, but anyone with a bit of bulk in the length or balls is going to find heavy steel tiresome in the long run. They can be lovely show pieces though and a lot of subs buy one for "special occasions", a session with Mistress or a public event for example. 


A lot of people are very happy in long term chastity with a plastic device, though they are very rigid, can cause excess sweat in the region, rub and chafe certain areas of the shaft or pinch on the balls if the ring is quite thin.


If you are considering a really long term in chastity then I would definitely recommend a soft touch skin feel silicone device. The velvety feel will cause less friction on your skin, they are light weight so wont pull down on your genitals, create a massive bulk in your pants or clunk on the corners of furniture as you squeeze past, and the flexibility of the silicone gives you a lot more in terms of comfort when it comes to sleeping with the device on or sitting in awkward positions, driving for a long time etc. 


 Many of the silicone devices come with extra thick rings that surround the whole genitals, I have found that these thicker rings worked really well for gentleman with low hanging testicles and extended scrotums as they could not slip out of these rings as they could on the plastic and steel devices. This particlar model (black device below) is the Master Series sado cage which my personal sub currently wears, he has tried many devices and found this to be the most comfortable and accommodating of his long scrotum. 



When it comes to sizes, if you have an average sized penis and balls with no striking features then a lot of the standard devices will fit you, finding full compatibility will come down to the material used, the type of system/ mechanism, the locking options. 


If you have a thick penis and/or very chunky balls in a tight high up scrotum then you're going to struggle with the ring sizes on most standard devices, even if you can just about squeeze your cock and balls into the largest ring provided it's not a good fit if it cant turn loosely around the balls allowing enough freedom for some movement, retraction, circulation and thermal regulation. If you hope to make babies one day, restricting circulation to your testicles on the regular is never a good idea. If you have very large testicles then you are going to struggle to find anything among the standard products with a ring large enough and will probably be looking at having a custom piece made.


If you have a very thick penis or an excessive amount /overstretched foreskin, it is likely that the shaft covering piece of the device will rub and chafe on specific points and cause swollen welted areas of skin. (This can heal easily after the device is removed, if the area is kept clean and free of infection while the device is on, it's just going to be very uncomfortable.) You need to be looking for devices with a wider shaft to be able to tuck your skin in properly and longer spacer pins to allow extra room for a larger thicker cock or balls getting in the way. You definitely should not be looking at any devices without spacer pins.


If you have very low hanging testicles and a stretched out scrotum, you may find that even wearing the smallest ring possible your testicles still slip out of the ring when you're showering or swimming. The extra thick rings that come on devices like the Master Series are going to be the best bet for wrangling those dangling balls. 


It is important to note that if while wearing a chastity device you begin to suffer from stomach cramps and pains, urinary tract issues (needing to pee but not being able to do it, burning while you pee) or a burning or aching sensation in the testicles, this is a good indication that you're testicles are being strangled and the tight fit is interfering with your normal bodily functions, you need to switch to a larger cock ring as soon as possible. With a good fitting ring you should still be able to get your middle finger under it while it's on and locked in place. 


If you have very retracted testicles that prevent you from wrapping your hand around your scrotum properly, it is unlikely that you will manage to fit a chastity cage at all, in which case you could consider the waist belted device, there are also specialist devices for micro-penises that don't reach into the shaft piece. 


If you are one of the few fellas that have been bestowed with gloriously chunky balls and members that could easily be described as above average, then you will probably find that most of what's out there is too tight and uncomfortable, but the good news is that for about the same price as what you would invest on a good quality device in the standard market, you can have a custom sized device designed and 3D printed for you by a designer on Shapeways. Although the devices are printed in plastic and not silicone as I would normally recommend for long term wear, the fact that you can have the device specifically made to your measurements means you get the perfect custom comfort fit, and there have been a lot of great reviews for this product. 

These custom devices are known as KHD (KH Dreams) chastity devices and are designed by the Italian pedro69 (who better than an Italian to understand the difficulties of being stallion sized!) on the 3D printing site shapeways, the direct link to his store is here:


I particularly like the more ergonomic shape of the ring which I am sure will give the testicles more a feeling of being hugge